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I do not often watch the show, The Bachelor. At times, due to curiosity, I click on the “news” website link to see which lucky lady was picked up this time.

It seems like there was some controversy on the last show over the “winner”, a confirmed bad girl named Vienna. It is probably because those women who followed the show closely wondered why the bachelor, an airline pilot, a self-obsessed guy who is not particularly attractive, picked Vienna.

Anyway what came later did not surprise me when I saw a CNN article saying they split up.

Here is the interesting thing. When they fist got together they were just gaga over each other, with her giggling over how he prepared for her a hot bath every night and whispered sweet words into her ears. To most people, they were the perfect couple and their love should last forever.

It is worthwhile to Google about the show to see their initial statements because they are overblown and despite this, a lot of people choose to believe about their “mutual attraction”.

How could it go wrong so fast to become another sad sexy story? The answer is – he may be able to create initial attraction mostly based on the set up of the show, but he is not able to sustain his attraction.

Initial attraction has nothing to do with sustaining attraction except for the fact it must exist first. However as time goes on, how you feel in the beginning has no bearing on how you feel in the future.

Initial attraction fades and what is left is what is most important. That is why right from the beginning; a guy has to choose the right woman that is suitable for him in order to have a long-lasting relationship.

How to judge if he/she is suitable for you? Here are some tips on how to judge a person's character before getting involved with them.

(1) Look at who they befriend with

You need to know who their friends are. You can judge a person's character by looking at their choice of friends. Just as the saying goes – Birds of the same feather flock together!

(2) Check out about their past actions

Very often you can judge a person by looking at their past history. A person who has gone through a dozen ex-girlfriends or boyfriends is not going to stick around with you for the long haul.

(3) Look at what they did and not what they said

Actions speak louder than words. Do not get fooled by the victim stories that people with character problems always invent for themselves. Guys, do not believe all four of her ex-husbands were abusive jerks. Ladies, do not just believe he is “trying” to stop his bad habits. Look for lies or exaggerations. See if their stories match up.

(4) Look at how they treat people who are no longer useful to them

People with bad character tend to be self-centered. They will treat you like a God when they want to get certain benefit from you, but as soon as you have no more use for them, they will start treating you like used tissue paper. Therefore rather than judging a person based on how they treat you when you have something they want from you, judge them based on how they treat people that are not so useful to them.

(5) See if they have any vices or addictions

Look for addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling and prostitution. Many people with character problems have one kind of dependency or another.

(6) Observe their attitude towards life

Look at how the person looks at the world. See if they like to blame others for their problems instead of taking responsibilities for their own actions. See if they are so negative that they resent everything and everyone around them. If this is the case, stay away from these people.

(7) See whether their actions match their beliefs

This is quite similar to point number 3. Looking at a person's beliefs is not enough. You need to see whether their actions match their beliefs. Their actions represent their true colors.

While on your first date, be a little careful about what all topics you talk about. There are a few things to keep in mind on such occasions and some very important ones to make sure you refrain from discussing. There's a very fine line to be aware of and breaking any of these rules can result in a date gone bad.

Use this occasion to explore your date and get to know more about the person without intruding upon their personal turf and making them feel uncomfortable. This is not about dominating a conversation and having your say, but more about being an equal and showing genuine curiosity in your date.

If your date were to ask about yourself, do answer the question with straight answer. Keep the conversation easy and flowing by asking some question on a subject of common interest. Always be engaged into the conversation and be mentally present.

One doesn't talk about topics like politics or crime on your first date. This is not done.

Of course you can talk about politics or any other subject if it so happens that both of you share the same common interest and then it helps you interact better and the conversation flows.

If you end up talking about politics and hold different view points, then avoid conflict of interest and change the topic.

The other topic you should keep away from on your first date is Religion.

Unless you find out before going on your date, that both of you are on the same side as far as your religions go and there is no controversy of opinions, religion is not a safe topic for discussion.

In case you do end up talking, it could get into an argument and build divides. Instead of spoiling your date, keep this discussion for the future until you get to know the other person better.

Plants, zombies and a free iPhone 4G! Imagine playing Popcap's most popular game in the Retina display of the newest model of Apple's flagship product. That's right! You can get a free iPhone 4G, quick and easy, by following what we will be telling you in this article. Read on.

If you don't know what Plants vs. Zombies is, it's a tower defense game published by Popcap, one which has taken the casual gaming world by storm. So popular is Plants versus Zombies that market observers say it is the one application that has sold more iPhone, iPod Touch and iPad units than all of the other apps combined.

The good news is, you don't have to buy an Apple product to enjoy this game of plants, zombies, and sunflower dews (you'll know what we're talking about once you play the game). You can savor Popcap's masterpiece with a free iPhone 4G. Yes, Plants vs. Zombies runs in this system!

How can you get a free iPhone 4G? Here are 3 very easy steps to ensure that you'll bring home Apple's newest mobile phone at the soonest time possible.

STEP 1: Look For A Legitimate TEST & OWN offer.

There are many TEST & OWN offers on the internet today, asking people to sign up and get an iPhone 4G unit and test it for bugs and defects. To compensate these testers, the advertisers allow them to keep the units they tested. Fantastic deal, isn't it?

These advertisers are companies interested with the performance of Apple's new cellphone. They are either manufacturing partners, distributors, would-be advertisers, or third party developers, and they want to know if the 4G model is a reliable incarnation of the line. For this, they need your help.

Now, it's just a matter of choosing a legitimate free iPhone 4G offer.

STEP 2: Provide Your Zip Code.

Easy enough, isn't it? Your zip code is actually essential for the legitimate advertisers' research efforts as they often want to geo-target their respondents. For example, a particular advertiser may only need respondents from the US, or maybe from the UK, or even from Australia/New Zealand. Asking for your zip code is the best way to ensure that you are from an area they are targeting.

Once your zip code is submitted, you will be asked to provide your personal details, i.e. your name, address, and email. Don't worry though, this is just to ensure that they will have your shipping details once they send over your free iPhone 4G unit.

STEP 3: Answer Their Questions.

Often, these legit advertisers will ask you to answer a series of questions, in the form of surveys. Just answer them, as this would be your participation in order to receive your free iPhone 4G unit. It shouldn't take long, and it's by far the easiest way to get your very own Apple cellular phone.

Just walking up to someone you fancy and getting their number is a real challenge and is hard to do well. Even though there are no sure fire ways to do it, there are definitely some help pointers we can give you.

Generally speaking, it is concern of rejection that makes people stuff up when attempting to chat someone up. Also, using really bad pickup lines, saying something inappropriate or picking someone out of your league don't help.

The first thing you need to overcome is concern about being denied. Most of the time, this denial is not really personal but is due to the fact that the other person is unavailable or cannot be bothered.

The key is that you have to be able to assess the likelihood of the other person being interested in you before you make the approach. Subtle things like body movements and other small indicators are useful things to know about.

Out of everything, body movements will be the big indicator of whether the person is open to be picked up. If they keep looking at you, start twirling their hair, or smile a lot, then chances are it is all on.

When you begin your approach, remember to smile and look them in the eye. You should be able to assess how you are doing as you walk up, before you even say anything.

No matter what, do not use any corny lines on them. Be yourself and say something that will help to break the ice.

You need to be relaxed about it, don't come off too intense or formal, as this is a total turnoff. Make sure you try to be funny and loose, give them a chance to reply and respect them if they tell you they're not interested.

Learning how to be attractive to women seems like the Holy Grail in getting more of the women you want. Women can be a confusing bunch and what one might find attractive another might not. However, there are certain universal laws of attraction that if you are able to master, you will never have to worry about being alone again.

Becoming more attractive to women is a physical and mental process. Like anything else in life, you have to be aware of your current status, set goals and plan measurable steps to get there. There millions of ways to make yourself seem more appealing to women; just remember it's a journey not a destination. It takes hard work and constant application to stay on top of this game.

Take a look around and see what you are lacking when compared to men that women are attracted to. Some it might be material. For example, say you notice that many women you find attractive like guys who own a certain kind of car, wear certain kinds of jewelry or have other material possessions. Set aside some money every week and save up for this things and you will automatically seem more attractive to some women.

Women may not be as visual as men, but they still appreciate someone who is put together and is wearing nice clothes. Stay on top of the latest fashions and styles with popular men's magazines. You don't have to buy a new wardrobe every season or follow every single fad; that might make you come off like a bit of a fashionista. No woman wants their man more stylishly dressed than they are. Buy a couple of new items every season and work them into your outfit rotation.

If you're as lost in a clothing store as Moses in the desert, then enlist the help of a woman you trust; a friend (who you don't want to be intimate with), a sister, cousin, co-worker etc. Don't be afraid to ask your buddies for advice either. If one of your friends is well put together all time, ask him for some tips. Just make sure to not copy his style.

Now that you have the threads that will help you figure out how to be attractive to women you need to work on the physical. Some stuff we can't help; your height, the shape of your face, genetics etc. But by learning all about proper diet and exercise, you can make what you do have look the best it can. Almost every woman out there is attracted to someone who is fit and in shape, so you can't go wrong by slimming down and looking better with your shirt off.

More than important than looking good is feeling good. Women respond the most to confidence and positive emotions that you pump out. If you hate yourself, it will show and turn a gal off. If a new car, wardrobe or better looking body make you feel better, why not go for it?

Figuring out how to be attractive to women is a combination of the mental and physical. Be organized and focused and you'll be exponentially better off than your competition.

Are you tired of doing your homework and debugging the hard drive? I think you know what I mean. Then it's time to get a girlfriend! What are some important lessons on how to get a girlfriend? We're going to give you three essential lessons right now. You can always “improve your game” with new tricks, but these essentials cannot be forgotten.

1. Stop being overly nice.

While it's nice that men are willing to play the part of the “gentleman”, it's usually not a turn on. Overly nice men get dull quickly. Rather than focus on being mean-spirited (also a mistake), instead try to control yourself from saying anything too mushy or manipulative. Be funny, be cool, be friendly and fun. Just be-that is one of the key points on how to get a girlfriend.

2. Stop being afraid.

Self-confidence is a man's greatest quality. You must conquer your fear of women. Whatever your problem with intimacy is, sort it out. I'm not here to be your personal shrink. However, I can tell you so that many men who are unsuccessful in dating have strange issues about openly flirting with the women they like. They usually make excuses as to why they can't directly ask a woman out or let them know that they are interested. Why? This is the single worst mistake you can make in learning how to get a girlfriend!

3. Don't be self-absorbed.

The second you stop thinking so much about yourself, you will start to listen. The girl you like will start to talk to you and share some of her life. You will listen and add to the conversation. You hear her words and slowly learn what type of man she is looking for. Then, you will become her perfect man. All of this because you stopped talking so much and instead, decided to listen.

If you are wondering how to get a girlfriend, then take these lessons to heart. Focus on self-improvement. There will always be smooth one-liners and clever tricks to get a woman fired up. However, these three points are the most important lessons, and unfortunately, the most often forgotten. So many men make the mistake of becoming “the friend”, due to these mistakes, and end up losing the woman they like. Women don't want an “act” when they date. They want to know the real you. They want to see your self-confidence and your talents in action. Sell yourself!

Let's face it; no matter how much you think you understand women, they are a straight up mystery most of the time. One minute they want one thing and the next minute they have completely changed their mind. Yet, if you understand how to turn a woman on you will never have to worry about understanding them and getting them to do what you want.

Men and women see the world in completely different ways. Something that means absolutely nothing to you could be an insult that cuts a woman to the quick. The smallest slight can easily turn a happy woman into your biggest enemy. Conversely, the smallest gesture of romance or niceness can equate to disproportionate feelings of attractiveness and emotional bonding.

Studies have shown that women are in fact 16 times more emotional about stuff than we men are. Armed with this knowledge, you can now see how doing things based on how you perceive the world simply won't work when it comes to women. While it may seem like nonsense and silly to you, using this information to your advantage will help you learn how to really turn a woman on.

Doing small things to create an emotional response in her is very easy. Wearing her favorite cologne, sending her a quick text message or dressing up for a date (without being asked) will show her that you are thinking about her. As she becomes more confident in your feelings for her, she will be more attracted to you. You can easily play their heightened emotional states against them and reap the benefits all the way to the bedroom.

Women are especially sensitive to words. Thus, saying the right thing can make a world of difference in her opinion about you. Writing her love letters, poems or even quick little messages will also have a giant effect on her attraction to you. Use the effect of words on your woman with brutal efficiency to increase her opinion of you. Conversely, if she thinks she is too good for you or that the power is all hers, you can deliver some well timed digs on her that will shake her confidence to the core and keep her wondering about you.

While dishing out sappy words is one way to make a woman attracted to you, don't take things too far and come off insincere or phony. Women have been hit on since they began puberty, so they have great BS detectors. Be genuine but make sure to play on her emotions and you'll get a lot father than most guys.

Smells are also a big factor in attracting a woman. Make yourself smell as clean as possible while still smelling manly. Cologne, body wash and even deodorant can make a woman find you much more attractive. Don't drop the ball though by stopping with your body. Make sure your car, house, clothes and everything else she could associate with you smells great. This will leave a huge impression in her mind about you.

Women are very emotional, and while this can be infinitely frustrating, you can also use it to your advantage. If you're trying to figure out how to really turn a woman on, all you need to do is approach the situation from a logical and scientific point of view, armed with the above knowledge. Know what you're up against and you steer her in any direction you want her to go.

Let me tell you one thing that will help you learn how to seduce women more than anything else; they want to be seduced! Once you understand this simple idea, you have an immense amount of power.

While many women embrace the ideas of equality and feminism they all still want to be seduced. They may not talk about it with their friends or even admit it to themselves but their genetic make ups, courtesy of millions of years of evolution, crave it. Fifty years of social change can't fight biology.

Woman want a strong man who will seduce them and make them feel feminine and special, and once you understand that you can rise above the rest of the pack and get any woman you want. Being bold, confident and relaxed is the key to getting any woman you want.

You want to project the aura and attitude of the mysterious “bad boy”. You don't want to seem too polished and you definitely want to have some rough edges. This intrigues women and also appeals to their nature of wanting to “fix” and take care of men in their lives. Being a “bad boy” doesn't mean you have to sport tattoos or be in a motorcycle gang. By simply standing firm in face of criticism and showing that their rejection doesn't bother you is enough to make most women want to learn more about you.

The ladies you see out at bars and clubs want a strong and confident man to approach them and pick them up. They don't want to deal with the beta males; those guys quickly become “friends” in their books. They get all dressed up because they want the most confident guy in the place to stroll up to them and start talking.

If you're interested in how to seduce women, the biggest thing to remember is to simply act as though it's no big deal. The hottest woman in the world expects guys to drool over her and make a big fuss. When you don't and act like you either take it or leave it, then she will automatically become intrigued and want to know why you are so confident and not crazy over her. Flip the script on her and make her doubt herself and see you as the alpha male.

By simply talking to a woman without kissing her ass, sucking up or drooling over you will establish yourself as someone she must work to get to know. Be interested in her stories but in a passing sort of way.

Learning how to seduce women isn't hard, it just takes some planning and a little practice and you can have any lady out there.

Heart break is something that happens in relationships. There is no way to absolutely prevent ever having your heart broken, but there are things that can be done that will help you avoid it as much as possible. Find out what you should watch out for before giving your heart to someone where it could be broken. There are certain characteristics that you should see in a person to reduce this from happening.

Many times what happens is that you end up dating the wrong type of people. There are many selfish people who get into relationships and end up causing pain. The goal is to find someone that is giving and caring all the time and not just to get you to like them. These types of people are a better option to give your heart to. Nothing can be prevented, but dating a selfish person who doesn't care about others will guarantee a broken heart.

You need to be critical about the way the person treats other people. Many do what's called the waiter test. See how he or she treats a waiter. If they are rude and disrespectful, this is a huge warning sign of someone that might not respect you when they become more comfortable with you.

Watch how the person treats their friends. Do they care about their friends? Do they drop things in their life to help others? This is a sign of someone that can really care about you and won't be too selfish.

Are they focused on what you are feeling and needing or more focused on themselves. You need to avoid those who will treat you in a selfish way. These are the types that will leave you for something they consider better as opposed to being committed.

Did they just get out of a relationship and are now wanting to be in one with you? You are the rebound in this situation. If you do open up and give away your heart, it's likely that you are going to get hurt. The reason is that once the person is over their last relationship, it's very likely that they will move on to starting to look for someone else.

When you are just friends and are hurting, is the person concerned and want to comfort you or do they want to stay away from you? You know they really care about you when they focus on you when hurting.

Heart break is a real thing in many relationships. You can attempt to avoid this by finding someone that really cares about you. Find out what you need to look for before giving your heart away.